Talk:Hey, whats up?/@comment-10107190-20141113005941

Do you guys consider yourself nice people as individuals?

Do you ever compliment yourself?

I've notice that in this society, it's normal and okay to be mean to yourself by saying things like "I'm so fat, I'm so ugly, I'm so annoying," when even saying something nice about YOURSELF around others, even with a bit of doubt, can make you seem "selfcentered" or "weird." I remember Katrina Mayer said, "Loving yourself isn't vanity, it's sanity." And it's very true.

Think to the last time that you saw or heard someone discourage themselves.

Now think to the last time you saw or heard someone (seriously, not as a joke) praised themselves.

Think about it.

I'm not saying people never praise themseleves. I'm just saying that in this society it seems that the "norm" is for one to discourage themselves to earn praise. Now, everyone discourages themselves. It's completely normal. But don't some people do it very unreasonably and constantly?

And, it seems that people also tend to bring out the "bad" and the "ugly" in others as well. Talking bad behind people's backs is much easier than talking praise.

Why have we changed to this negative and discouraging idea, when we could all be complimenting each other and ourselves?

Simply, you could say something like "I think I did a good job on my presentation," or "I am a nice person," something like that...

We shouldn't live in this idea that being mean to ourselves and others is more normal than being nice to ourselves. I really don't like seeing girls say things like "I'm so ugly and stupid and fat," (people have said that before, I'm not exaggerating.).

So, go back to the first question.

Well, actually, let's make it more broad.

Do you think you're a good person?

Do you think who you are is good?

Unless you can think of an extremely logical reason where the answer is no, then the answer should be yes. If it's not, think about what you think gets in the way.

If you think you're not pretty enough, then that's not a reason. Everybody is unique and beautiful in their own way.

If you think it's because you don't do well in school, that's not a reason, that doesn't make you bad, it can be helped.

If there's anything else, like some huge time where you screwed up, or if you think you aren't smart enough... just remember that you are a work in progress like everyone else and you are different like everyone else. And it's okay if not everything about you is exactly the way you want it to be. If it can be helped, then try to help it. If not, remember it doesn't make you any less awesome than you already are. :)

Not sure if anyone will read this but I wanted to share this message and if you read it I would be grateful. :)